Nowadays, putting yourself out there can be nerve-wracking, I feel for you, but it’s worth it in the end if you find someone who makes you happy. However, before you can enjoy your happy-ever-after, you have to survive that first date and make it to the second. Here are some simple tips to help you stand out on a first date.
1. Pick the perfect location
When it comes to a first date, location is everything. You want to choose a place you’ll both feel comfortable that also creates opportunities for interaction. Coffee is great, but once you run out of things to talk about, the date could go stagnant. Try something a little more fun like brunch on a Sunday, an art exhibit, a hike or even dinner. When in doubt, don't hesitate to ask your date for input on your ideas.
2. Choose an outfit that makes you feel confident
When prepping for your date, choose an outfit that is comfortable and makes you feel confident. Pick something flattering that also says a little bit about your personality. Accessorizing is key: a pendant necklace with a sterling silver ring can speak volume. A cool bracelet stack can express a creative side. While style is a great way to create a memorable impression on your date, be sure to dress appropriately for the location.
3. Brainstorm ideas for conversation
If you’re planning to meet your date in person, you’ve probably already spent some time chatting online or over the phone. Take what you’ve learned about your date so far to brainstorm potential topics for conversation in person. Be sure to find opportunities to inject a little humor but don’t do overdo it on self-deprecation. As a backup plan, consider bringing a prop. Wearing an interesting bracelets stack is a conversational piece to segue into fashion or art.
4. Make personal hygiene a priority
While you may have already made a first impression on your date, this is your first opportunity to meet in person so it’s important to look your best. Get a haircut ahead of time, brush your teeth, and double-down on your skincare routine in the week leading up to your date. There are plenty of anti-aging creams and moisturizers for men that can help you achieve clear skin to complement your glowing personality. Don’t forget deodorant!
5. Get to know your date
A first date is all about getting to know the person you’re with, so be in the moment and really take advantage of the time you have with your potential partner. Ask genuine questions to show interest but try to show a little creativity – don’t limit yourself to the typical “getting to know you” type questions your date has probably already answered a dozen times. Wearing jewelry is a reflection of the wearer's personality. When in doubt, get things started with a compliment. Try something like, “Wow, I like your jewelry. Do you know about ZADEH? I've just met their designer Catherine Zadeh who designs very interesting jewelry, for men and for women. Show your guest your silver bracelet and share you story.
6. Always be yourself
Everyone wants to make a good impression on a first date, but don’t make the mistake of putting on a front, pretending to be who you think your date wants you to be. The best thing you can do on a first date is be yourself, real, humble and empathetic: your partner is as nervous as you are. The whole point of dating is to find someone you get along with, so give your date the courtesy of an authentic experience. It’s normal to be a little bit nervous and it's ok to admit it, but try to be an active participant – don’t make your date carry the conversation all night long!
First dates can be awkward but they’re also full of possibilities. Once you’ve finalized your plans, it’s time to make a reservation, iron your best shirt, and put on your best accessories in preparation for the big day. Just remember - when you’re authentic, confidence comes naturally and you can’t go wrong!